Relationships

You Might Have Needed Couples Therapy 6 Years Ago

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You Might Have Needed Couples Therapy 6 Years Ago

According to pristine research conducted by Dr. John Gottman, the average couple waits six years after problems arise to start couples therapy. Six years? Yes, that’s right. Six whole years of struggle and weight on a couple’s relationship is a lot to carry. So how come people wait so long to seek help?   Fear Of Stigma It is a sad reality that there is still a negative stigma linked to needing assistance with mental health. Many people have a hard time admitting that they need help because they don’t want to come off as “stupid” or “weak.” Specifically with couples...

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Top Tips From Couples Therapists

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Top Tips From Couples Therapists

Many people feel intimidated and scared by the thought of couples therapy. It’s no surprise, since people often feel awkward and uncomfortable when meeting someone new, especially if they’re telling a stranger about their intimate struggles. Naturally, couples will attempt to figure out the problems themselves to either save money or save themselves from embarrassment. If you are someone who chooses to go down that road, then there are some free pieces of advice that couples therapists want you to know.   Going With The Flow Doesn’t Exactly Work Just doing what comes naturally to...

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Foundations to Couple's Communication

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So much of the time, communication for couples is the main culprit for arguments and inability to resolve conflicts.  Here are a few questions to ask yourself if you are facing marital issues: 1.  Do you argue over who caused what, or do you take responsibility for your own behavior? 2. Do you make an attempt to change your behavior?  It will only take one partner to change to change the whole system. 3.  Do you focus on your partner and what he/she needs to change?  If so, the system will stay stuck. 4.  Are you willing to make small changes?  These can make a big difference. 5.  Is...

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The Love Avoidant

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The Love Avoidant

Characteristics of The Love Avoidant: Love Addicts are attracted to people with certain identifiable and fairly predictable characteristics, and people with these characteristics are attracted to Love Addicts in return.  The primary attribute marking all of the characteristics on the “model” partner for a Love addict is avoidance, which seems incredible to their partners since Love Avoidants come on to their partners so strongly at first. Characteristics: Love Avoidants evade intensity within the relationship by creating intensity in activities (usually addictions) outside the...

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Women's Sexual (Love/Relationship) Addictions Screening Test

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Women's Sexual (Love/Relationship) Addictions Screening Test

         Women’s Sexual Addiction Screening Test    By Patrick Carnes, Ph.D.& Sharon O’Hara, LMFT The Women’s Sexual Addiction Screening Test (W-SAST) is designed to assist in the assessment of sexually compulsive behavior. This test is a screening instrument, meant to be used in the context of a therapeutic interview. By itself, the W-SAST does not provide a diagnosis. Answer each question yes or no, then count how many “yes” answers you have. Depending on the particular pattern of symptoms:3 – 4 “yes” responses may indicate an...

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Creating Boundaries When you are in a Relationship with a Sex Addict

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Creating Boundaries When you are in a Relationship with a Sex Addict: What are boundaries?  They are a dividing line between you and anyone else.  These lines represent physical, emotional, and spiritual limits that other people in your life may not violate.  It may help to envision a psychological fence that separates you from others in your life.  You may have different boundaries for loved ones, friends, acquaintances, and strangers, depending on the area of focus and the situation.  Boundaries are meant to protect you from physical danger, anger, hurt, fear, or any other painful...

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