Financial Problems in Relationships: How to Fix Them

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Financial Problems in Relationships: How to Fix Them

Researchers have found that money is a leading cause of fighting in a relationship. Here in Orlando at Life Counseling Solutions we help couples and families talk through their financial issues and begin a financial plan that leads to harmony within the relationship. This is a real opportunity to improve your relationship.

Money issues are brought about by several different emotional factors: security, independence, self-esteem, status, power, and control. Taking a look at these emotional voids is the first step to becoming financially and emotionally healthy.

Here are some commonly asked questions:

Q. What are some differences between men and women when it comes to money?

A. Men tend to be more risky with money and use it as a way to enhance their self-esteem. Women view money as a source of security, and when the money is low women tend to become fearful.

Q. If I am thinking about marriage, what should I be looking at financially?

A. It is important to understand each others’ outstanding debts, total assets, monthly obligations and credit scores. A large debt load is a strong red flag. The last thing you want to happen is your consulting with your realtor and debts come up when trying to get approved for a home that your partner didn’t know about.

Q. My partner has been out of work for some time now, how can I help him/her?

A. Recognize this is probably a temporary situation and approach this in a team fashion. Cut out things you really don’t need and devise a game plan for job searching. Recognize both of you will be under added stress during unemployment. Be a support for one another.

Q. We both bring in an income, should we both contribute to the bills?

A. Contribute a percentage based on your income. Example: partner #1 makes $60,000 a year and partner #2 makes $30,000. In this scenario partner #1 would pay twice as much towards the payment of the household bills.

Q. My wife spends more than we make. She has clothes hanging in the closet with tags still on them. What is up with that?

A. There is such a thing as a shopping addiction. Addictions create a loss of balance and rationality. All addictions are rooted in immediate gratification. There is a rush of feeling good, powerful, worthy, and free of problems while addictively shopping. The long-range, destructive implications of this behavior are temporarily ignored.

If money and finances are a strain on your relationship, there is help. Here in Orlando at Suzanne Rucker Counseling we can help you work through a financial plan that is right for your family. Please call me, Suzanne, at (407) 967-9313 for an appointment.

Suzanne Rucker, Licensed Mental Health Counselor

EMDR & ASAT Certified

www.SuzanneRucker.com

LifeCounselingSolutions@gmail.com

(407) 967-9313

Suzanne would like to help her clients find happiness in life.  Are you depressed or anxious wondering how you can get through the next day? Do you feel over-worked and under-appreciated?  Do you have a difficult maintaining your weight, managing your finances, coping with your own addiction or the addiction of someone else, or maybe you are having a hard time getting along with your spouse or a difficult teenager?  There is relief….The first step, which is the most difficult, is making the call to seek help and direction for a better life.

Suzanne Specializes In: Relationship Problems, Recovery & Strengthening, Depression, Anxiety, and Stress Management, Sexual Addiction/Love Addiction & Co-Dependency (women & men), Addictions (drugs, alcohol, shopping, etc),Trauma ,Personal/Sports/and Corporate Coaching. Clinical Training: CSAT : Suzanne is trained in sexual addictions from the prestigious IITAP institute and Patrick Carnes, EMDR (eye movement and desensitization and reprocessing):

Suzanne offers this processing technique for relief from traumas, anxiety, depression, addictions, fears, phobias, and test anxiety.  EMDR can also enhance sports and speaking/professional performances, Prepare/Enrich: Suzanne can help you learn how to build stronger relationships through communication and conflict resolution skill building.  This program is ideal for premarital counseling, marriage preparation, marriage counseling, and marriage enrichment, Suzanne earned her MS in Counseling Psychology from Palm Beach Atlantic University.