You Might Have Needed Couples Therapy 6 Years Ago

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You Might Have Needed Couples Therapy 6 Years Ago

According to pristine research conducted by Dr. John Gottman, the average couple waits six years after problems arise to start couples therapy. Six years? Yes, that’s right. Six whole years of struggle and weight on a couple’s relationship is a lot to carry. So how come people wait so long to seek help?

 

Fear Of Stigma

It is a sad reality that there is still a negative stigma linked to needing assistance with mental health. Many people have a hard time admitting that they need help because they don’t want to come off as “stupid” or “weak.” Specifically with couples therapy, numerous people don’t want to admit that there is an issue. And even if they do happen to admit it to themselves, they don’t want anyone else to know.

 

However, many couples actually engage in couples therapy and nobody would ever know. Some go even if there aren’t issues to simply strengthen relationships. Just remember that you and your partner’s mental health is important and needs help just as much as your physical health.

 

Fearing Diagnosis

Many are concerned about facing their diagnosis head-on. There’s one thing to know that there is a problem and another feeling when you have a name to put to it. Some find ease in knowing, while others don’t.

 

A misunderstanding that some also hold is that they will live with the diagnosis forever once it is detected. But that’s simply not true. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness, between 70 and 90 percent of those who employ psychological treatment will recover from their mental health issues. So you have a good chance of recovering! And that means you likely won’t be in therapy for the rest of your life unless you choose to.

 

Fearing Judgment

Your therapist isn’t a professional because they like to judge people. They went through extensive training and education to be there to help you work through your problems without personal judgment or condescension. Your therapist will work to cultivate a safe space that will allow you and your partner to feel you can express anything without judgment.

 

Fearing Opening Up To A Stranger

It’s natural to not feel ready to tell a stranger all of your deep thoughts and therapists get it. But this is actually one of the best things about therapy! You start off with a blank slate, ready to build a relationship with your therapist. Furthermore, the outside perspective that has no ties to your personal life is a great tool to have when solving problems. There are no emotional attachments or personal biases that your therapist will struggle with.

 

Don’t be fearful and contact a therapist if you and your partner are facing struggles in your relationship. Don’t wait till it’s too late to seek the help you need. There’s nothing to fear! Just like you would go to the doctor’s office if you were sick, you need to see a couple’s therapist if your relationship is not so well.

 

Contact a local certified counselor, like Suzanne Rucker.

Suzanne would like to help her clients find happiness in life.  Are you depressed or anxious wondering how you can get through the next day? Do you feel over-worked and under-appreciated?  Do you have a difficult maintaining your weight, managing your finances, coping with your own addiction or the addiction of someone else, or maybe you are having a hard time getting along with your spouse or a difficult teenager?  There is relief….The first step, which is the most difficult, is making the call to seek help and direction for a better life.

Suzanne Specializes In: Relationship Problems, Recovery & Strengthening, Depression, Anxiety, and Stress Management, Sexual Addiction/Love Addiction & Co-Dependency (women & men), Addictions (drugs, alcohol, shopping, etc),Trauma ,Personal/Sports/and Corporate Coaching. Clinical Training: CSAT : Suzanne is trained in sexual addictions from the prestigious IITAP institute and Patrick Carnes, EMDR (eye movement and desensitization and reprocessing):

Suzanne offers this processing technique for relief from traumas, anxiety, depression, addictions, fears, phobias, and test anxiety.  EMDR can also enhance sports and speaking/professional performances, Prepare/Enrich: Suzanne can help you learn how to build stronger relationships through communication and conflict resolution skill building.  This program is ideal for premarital counseling, marriage preparation, marriage counseling, and marriage enrichment, Suzanne earned her MS in Counseling Psychology from Palm Beach Atlantic University.