So much of the time, communication for couples is the main culprit for arguments and inability to resolve conflicts. Here are a few questions to ask yourself if you are facing marital issues:
1. Do you argue over who caused what, or do you take responsibility for your own behavior?
2. Do you make an attempt to change your behavior? It will only take one partner to change to change the whole system.
3. Do you focus on your partner and what he/she needs to change? If so, the system will stay stuck.
4. Are you willing to make small changes? These can make a big difference.
5. Is what you are doing ineffective? If so stop and shift to a different behavior. One that is more productive.
6. What is the quality of your interactions with your partner? The quality effects the productivity, meaningfulness, and satisfaction.
7. Are you able to express your emotions effectively without blame?
It seems most couples are comfortable when discussing intellectual issues, but few are able so discuss strong emotions. An exercise that will help with communicating emotions is:
“I feel (emotion) when (event that happened).” example: “I feel frustrated when you leave your clothes on the floor.”
Couples therapy and couples counseling with a licensed and experienced therapist like Suzanne Rucker will strengthen your relationship and help resolve the issues that are causing you to struggle.
Contact Couples Therapist Suzanne Rucker at 407-967-9313 or by email LifeCounselingSolutions@gmail.com
Suzanne would like to help her clients find happiness in life. Are you depressed or anxious wondering how you can get through the next day? Do you feel over-worked and under-appreciated? Do you have a difficult maintaining your weight, managing your finances, coping with your own addiction or the addiction of someone else, or maybe you are having a hard time getting along with your spouse or a difficult teenager? There is relief….The first step, which is the most difficult, is making the call to seek help and direction for a better life. Suzanne Specializes In: Relationship Problems, Recovery & Strengthening, Depression, Anxiety, and Stress Management, Sexual Addiction/Love Addiction & Co-Dependency (women & men), Addictions (drugs, alcohol, shopping, etc),Trauma ,Personal/Sports/and Corporate Coaching. Clinical Training: CSAT : Suzanne is trained in sexual addictions from the prestigious IITAP institute and Patrick Carnes, EMDR (eye movement and desensitization and reprocessing): Suzanne offers this processing technique for relief from traumas, anxiety, depression, addictions, fears, phobias, and test anxiety. EMDR can also enhance sports and speaking/professional performances, Prepare/Enrich: Suzanne can help you learn how to build stronger relationships through communication and conflict resolution skill building. This program is ideal for premarital counseling, marriage preparation, marriage counseling, and marriage enrichment, Suzanne earned her MS in Counseling Psychology from Palm Beach Atlantic University.
