Foundations to Couple's Communication
So much of the time, communication for couples is the main culprit for arguments and inability to resolve conflicts. Here are a few questions to ask yourself if you are facing marital issues: 1. Do you argue over who caused what, or do you take responsibility for your own behavior? 2. Do you make an attempt to change your behavior? It will only take one partner to change to change the whole system. 3. Do you focus on your partner and what he/she needs to change? If so, the system will stay stuck. 4. Are you willing to make small changes? These can make a big difference. 5. Is...
Read MoreThe Love Avoidant
Characteristics of The Love Avoidant: Love Addicts are attracted to people with certain identifiable and fairly predictable characteristics, and people with these characteristics are attracted to Love Addicts in return. The primary attribute marking all of the characteristics on the “model” partner for a Love addict is avoidance, which seems incredible to their partners since Love Avoidants come on to their partners so strongly at first. Characteristics: Love Avoidants evade intensity within the relationship by creating intensity in activities (usually addictions) outside the...
Read MoreWomen's Sexual (Love/Relationship) Addictions Screening Test
Women’s Sexual Addiction Screening Test By Patrick Carnes, Ph.D.& Sharon O’Hara, LMFT The Women’s Sexual Addiction Screening Test (W-SAST) is designed to assist in the assessment of sexually compulsive behavior. This test is a screening instrument, meant to be used in the context of a therapeutic interview. By itself, the W-SAST does not provide a diagnosis. Answer each question yes or no, then count how many “yes” answers you have. Depending on the particular pattern of symptoms:3 – 4 “yes” responses may indicate an...
Read MoreCreating Boundaries When you are in a Relationship with a Sex Addict
Creating Boundaries When you are in a Relationship with a Sex Addict: What are boundaries? They are a dividing line between you and anyone else. These lines represent physical, emotional, and spiritual limits that other people in your life may not violate. It may help to envision a psychological fence that separates you from others in your life. You may have different boundaries for loved ones, friends, acquaintances, and strangers, depending on the area of focus and the situation. Boundaries are meant to protect you from physical danger, anger, hurt, fear, or any other painful...
Read MorePornography Addiction: Crack Cocaine to the Brain
Pornography addiction usually starts out with casual viewing and progresses to an out-of-control addiction that destroys relationships, careers, families, and leads to extreme despair for the addict. The addict needs more frequent and intense pornography to achieve the same level of satisfaction as before. Even though the addict desires to stop, there are recurrent failures to curb and resist the impulses. The addict finds him/herself limiting social, occupational or recreational activities in order to engage in the addiction. Stopping pornography use will cause irritability,...
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